How to Come Back After “Hitting a Wall”
In one of his most recent Agent Evolution videos on Facebook, Libertas Real Estate Owner Justin Thorstad reveals a personal experience of his own — hitting a wall. He talks about the reality of this happening, and how to come back from it. Here, Thorstad walks through the process to help others come back from this experience.
When hitting a wall recently, Justin admits he was “down for the count.” Experiencing low energy, negative emotions and no vitality, he knew he had to take some time to rest and recover — and then reflect. He suggests anyone feeling this way or experiencing a low state of mind should take that same downtime to rest and reflect and ask themselves, “How did I get here?”
He reminds that when striving towards a goals, sometimes people can start to feel frustration as they put in so much effort but don’t feel they are getting very far. He admits that he experienced this — and made a critical mistake, which was turning opportunity into obligation, fun into tasking, and worst yet, turning effort into work! (Those who know Justin and his mindset know that he doesn’t mind putting in the effort, but he doesn’t like the hustle and grind of “work”!) He realized he was getting more and more negative and stressed about the thing, the goal, that he actually really loves.
Instead of getting further down, Justin used one of his mindset skills — awareness. Being aware of this process and understanding that it’s okay to sometimes have a slide down helped him get to his next step in the process — the upward trajectory.
He refers to this slide down, then upward process as what the ancient Japanese called a Kensho Satori moment. Kensho moments refer to that deep dip, and the Satori are bursts upward. But the important part of the Kensho moment is reflecting upon the dip and learning from that to experience an ever higher Satori.
Justin breaks it down by explaining that when working towards any goal, people are trying to grow upward. However, sometimes there is actually more development in that dip that is critical for future growth in the upward trajectory. He says that dip is necessary, but also should be temporary. He calls it a season.
And during that “season” people have the opportunity to look within to try to figure out what it is about their internal programming and their habitual actions that caused that dip in the first place. He says without that dip to adjust the programming, people might not notice what is actually running the show.
Due to the fact that people are indeed human beings and not robots, outside sources also impact how people are feeling. Justin points to the “big three” — one’s body, one’s environment and time.
He explains during his downward dip, he started to identify with those things and as such, began experiencing lower emotions — the negativity, depression, anger, anxiety, doubt, worry and fear. However, he once again chose awareness to reset himself.
By realizing that this setback was actually just a setup for a comeback, he was able to look at the experience as part of the process. He took the opportunity to reflect upon how he got to that point and asked himself how he could learn from this experience. He suggests anyone experiencing this type of thing do the same — to ask themselves what isn’t working and what improvements can they make.
For Justin, it was the inconsistency of his morning practices. Getting off track from that led to the dip. Through the process he was able to realize how important his morning practice is to elevate his vibrations and for his state of being and his thoughts and feelings that set him up for success each day.
When it comes down it, dips are part of the natural process. It’s important for people to realize that they will almost certainly experience them on their journey to becoming the best version of themselves. He urges people to see those experiences progress and to use and adapt them to continue to become their best selves.