“Your Worthiness Isn’t on Trial”
In his latest JT Show video, Libertas Real Estate Founder Justin Thorstad tackles the topic of worthiness. This is something that many people struggle when they are striving to achieve their goals and become their ideal versions of themselves. Getting to that place or achieving that goal can become intimidating or feel like judgement, according to Justin. But he says that people’s worth isn’t, and shouldn’t, be tied to that goal or ideal version of themselves.
“Rather than thinking about whether you’re worthy of that goal, it better be worthy of you,” he says. “Because you’re going to trade your life and all your time for that worthy ideal.” He also shares some advice that a coach of his own told him: “Your worthiness is not on trial.”
He expands upon this to say that one’s worthiness is not on the line whether they achieve that thing they’re aiming for or not. And in fact, most people keep what they really want bogged down in confusion and hidden so it’s nearly impossible to achieve. And then it starts to feel like that aim or goal is judging where they are in the process of attaining it.
“This can feel like judgement because you feel inadequate or insufficient,” he says, adding, “But that’s a good thing! Of course you’re going to be insufficient in some areas because you aren’t there yet. But that ‘judgement’ from your ideal version is actually pointing you in the direction you need to go to get there.” He encourages people to fully experience the process of feeling insufficient and then let it burn away.
He also shares a personal story of his own worthiness, which he experienced during his latest seminar. He had been meditating on the seminar concluding with a standing ovation. While he admits he admonished himself for that being egotistical, he had envisioned that as a symbol that his seminar had provided value for people and made an impact on them.
But when the seminar came to a close and, in fact, he did receive a standing ovation, he was hesitant to fully receive it. Automatically, he turned away from the crowd to begin cleaning up his presentation area, but then he stopped himself. He turned back to the crowd and fully embraced the experience, making eye contact with people as they clapped for him.
He shares this because it’s important for people to realize that regardless of their goal, they will still have to come up against themselves. And even once they do achieve that goal or that ideal version of themselves, it’s not over. There will always be another goal, something else to reach for or ways to improve. And there is beauty in going after it.
“You don’t have to improve, but you can,” he says, asking. “And what is that version of you like? What are you truly capable of?”
He encourages people to release the attachment of their worthiness to their goal or ideal and instead enjoy the process as they work to achieve it. And when they do, he highly recommends fully taking in the moment of achievement.